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Perfection or Redemption

5/3/2010

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At the suggestion of a student I watched the movie First of May. It was about a little boy who at the age of 4 saw his father die in a car accident and for years was moved from foster home to foster home. A family finally wanted to adopt him but they got pregnant and he believed they wanted to send him away so he ends up running away. The only movie I have ever seen that was so depressing all the way through until the happy ending. Pretty waring on the emotions really.

But it exposed some of the fears I have related to this baby. It caused me to recognize my fear of my boys thinking I love this baby more because it is biological and how I never ever want them to think that.

And it caused me to recognize how I value perfection over Redemption. Let me explain. I get ignorant comments quite often. They dont bother me that much because I tend to be a pretty gracious person. But, if my boys were to hear them, that is a whole different story. For instance, the other day when I told someone I was pregnant they said "bet you wish you would have waited." I was in shock... trying to figure out what else they could mean by that. The next day as I told someone else the person next to them  excitedly said "with her own" (as if my boys arnt my own.) If my boys heard either of those, how can a little mind discern these people are just a bit ignorant? They cant, and that is how lies get set in a heart. And that freaks me out. What about when they hear the comment "so which one is the 'real' one. This made me want to control everything they ever heard. I thought, "I have to be with them every second, so when they hear these stupid comments I can help them recognize them as lies." But the reality is, I can not be with them every second. I have to trust God with them.

God doesnt do things my way. If I had my way, everything would be perfect. There would be no pain, no suffering and no one would believe any lies. But He allows these awful things to show Himself as the great Redeemer. So, chances are my wonderful boys will believe lies and chances are I wont know what they are. But....  the hope is that God knows and He is using it for something greater. He will Redeem and even I will say that it was worth it.

Oh Lord, please help me value Your Redemption more than perfection. Help me trust You with my boys.
3 Comments
Michelle
5/3/2010 02:28:57 am

Laura ~ I love how you wrestle with what's hard. I pray that this pregnancy blesses you in the depths of your soul, and that your boys see how much you love them.

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David Rupert link
5/4/2010 12:20:25 am

Laura ..if we do the right things, pursuing truth, then the ignorance of men becomes all the more apparent. We can be gracious to them, and inwardly smile that we know, absolutely, that we are walking according to truth and redemption.
Fabulous post!

David
http://www.redletterbelievers.com
"Salt and Light"

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Tracy Leigh Huffman link
3/12/2011 08:43:51 am

I know you wrote this a long time ago, but I was reading your blog tonight and for some reason clicked on the "Adoption" line in your topics links. I was struck at how you so wonderfully put into words something that so many people who have been involved in adoption struggle with. I can remember being a little girl at a Christmas program with my grandparents and being introduced to some of their friends. They (not meaning it to be hurtful I am sure) introduced my sister and I as "they ones who were adopted" and then introduced my brother as "the actual child". So reading your post about this just makes me so overjoyed that you are already taking steps to protect your children and even more so allowing God to show them how much they are His as well as yours. Thanks for writing. :)
Tracy Leigh

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