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Entitlement is Killing Us

12/14/2012

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I want to share an embarrassing moment with y'all. Today I started my morning out by laying on the bathroom floor crying just after getting out of the shower. Something about being in your most vulnerable state allows God to really work in your heart.

Laying in a heap on the floor in a towel and sobbing, I gave my life back over to Jesus. I yielded parts of my heart I've been holding with white knuckles for some time now. God broke me of my entitlement, of my own rights, of my own life. Entitlement was killing me. And it may be killing you.
There are things I was holding onto so tightly I was choking my relationship with Jesus. Things I was just not willing to let go of. Things that I was unwilling to forsake for the gospel.

But the truth is that I don't deserve a single thing. Well other than death. I deserve death. I deserve a bloody, painful, embarrassing death. I deserve the shame and guilt. I deserve the death that Jesus died. That is the only thing I'm entitled to. I'm entitled to death, nothing more.

We have no "rights" other than the right to die. We are not entitled to life. We are not entitled to a job. We are not entitled to a marriage, or an education, or a government that values us, or a family, or a new iPhone, or anything. In reality, all these things are blessings.

I am so prone to think that I am entitled to getting married. That it is a right. It's something I deserve. But it's just not. My life is a gift from God, married or not. He is the ultimate gift, not finding a husband. If I view things in my life, including the state of my relationship, as a gift, then my whole view changes.

Everything we have is a gift of grace from God, nothing we can demand to possess. Even our own life is a blessing, a precious gift from God. We are not our own, we were bought with a price (1 Cor 6:19-20)

So act like it. Live as if your life really is a gift, a blessing, not something you deserve, something that can be taken at any moment. If you profess to follow Jesus, than you need to yield your "rights" to him.

Yielding to Christ doesn't mean that you trust Him with something and expect Him to turn right back around and give it back to you, but that you give it to him and you are thankful for the outcome no matter what it is. It doesn't mean "giving your husband to God" and then expecting to meet him the next day.

He has the prerogative to give it back to you or take it away for ever. He is fully justified in doing anything He wants with your life.

Giving things to him and yielding your life means gratitude in everything. Because everything is a gift from God, the good, the bad and otherwise. A yielded life to Christ means thanking God for the grace he has given you.

The most counter-cultural thing we can do is live like this. To live as if we aren't our own. To live as if even the painful, hard, torturous things are gifts from God. To live without "rights" in an entitlement saturated culture.

Lord, let us live fully yielded to You. Help us lay down our 'rights' for Your sake. We know that it is not good for a man to gain the whole world and yet lose his soul. You are worthy of giving up everything! Thank you for being the ultimate example of laying down your rights for us. You laid down your rights to die on a cross for us. You are worthy of our lives!

Meet Angi

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Angi loves Jesus, coffee, baseball and baking cakes. She is a missionary to college students and can't think of anything she'd rather do to serve God. Angi first met the Lord while climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro in Tanzania, Africa but really understood His love and grace as a freshman in college. Her heart is to invest in college students in the same way that many others invested in her. You can find her blogging over at Angi Does Ministry where she tells stories about Jesus, college students, and life. You can also find her on facebook, twitter, pintrest and instagram.

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Laurie
12/14/2012 12:38:58 pm

Angi,thank you for posting it.I really needed to read this and be reminded of this,how life is a gift, and laying down my rights,especially to get married,is essential in my walk with Jesus.I need to yield to him in gratitude,in thankfulness.

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Angi link
12/21/2012 08:28:26 am

Thanks Laurie! Yes gratitude has changed my perspective so much!

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Melanie
12/18/2012 02:14:41 am

Hi Angi,

This really spoke to my heart... When I saw the title of the post, I knew I,had to read it. I've been dealing with chronic health problems for the past 3 years and 6 months ago my hubby and I were hit by a reckless driver on the highway. It's been hard to deal with the new pain and restrictions (I still cannot walk normally and can drive very minimally now.) My joy in Christ has been hard to maintain over the past 3 years and especially these past 6 months. That's why I'm here at Missional Women - to cry out , "restore to me the joy of YOUR salvation!"

Your article reminded me that I am not entitled to a pain-free life; I am not entitled to be able to walk and run and drive; I am not entitled to health - but I've been given the forever love of Christ, the constant presence of His Spirit, and His promise the He will never leave us. What happens beyond that is in His hands, and I don't want to try to step outside of that place - in His hands...

Hoping this finds you in His loving hands,
a blessed sister in Jesus

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Angi link
12/21/2012 08:32:27 am

Wow Melanie, thanks so much for sharing! I pray God will really use this time of pain for his glory in your life! I'm so glad you stopped by! You might really love a website from one of our contributors, Carly, called Reaching For Fringe. It's about leaning on God with chronic health issues. (Her husband has Crohn's) http://reachingforfringe.blogspot.com/

Be blessed sweet friend! We're praying for you!

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Mikah link
12/20/2012 08:14:28 pm

If only we could live each day remembering this! It is so easy for me to forget the weight of the gift and sacrifice, but I am so blessed by these reminders and by the conviction of the Holy Spirit in my own life. May we all have a renewed spirit within us and allow the passion we have for the Father override competing desires of the world.

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Angi link
12/21/2012 08:34:10 am

Gosh, it is so easy to forget! I constantly have to remember to keep Jesus as my focus. Thanks so much for stopping by! Hope you have a blessed day!

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Emma
12/28/2012 12:15:44 am

Great Post Angi!
It's funny how often I think that I've given an aspect of my life over to God when in reality I just let him "borrow" it and then take control again when I want something or feel that things aren't going the way I'd expect them to - This is a repeated issue that I have had with being single, I think that I am content but then I suddenly get hit with a wave of discouragement when I think of the possibility that I will never have that, that I will always be single. Your post showed me that this is a huge level of assumption and entitlement on my part and that when I give something over to God it isn't mine to control or worry about anymore. God will do whatever he wants with my life in his own timing and this will be far better than my plan :)

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Erin
2/1/2013 01:54:57 am

Um ... I'm confused. This post in itself, is fine. But why did you link it on Kelly's Korner? I think you misunderstood the point of the Show Us Your Singles post - the idea wasn't to share your thoughts on singleness. The idea of that whole thing is to put yourself out there if you're interested in meeting someone, or if you have a friend who would like to meet someone. So I'm guessing you just linked up this post there to get some hits, which is kind of silly.

Since you did that, however, I think it's okay to comment that I don't think the people who are participating on that post - or people who would like to get married - feel "entitled" to meet someone. I would venture to say many of them dearly love the Lord, just as much as you do. They're also interested in meeting someone great and doing life together. There's nothing wrong with that.

I like the point of this post - giving thanks to God in all situations, and running after him with everything you've got. I just don't get why you linked it to Kelly's Show Us Your Singles post.

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Laura
2/1/2013 06:56:33 am

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Erin and opening communication about this.

The reason I linked it up is because I think this post is very encouraging for single women. Having worked with mostly single women for over 11 years I know their struggles in wanting to get married. This post has encouraged many women and I thought other women would be encouraged as well. I made sure to make it very clear on the title of the link by calling it "Thoughts on singleness" just to be upfront about what this post was about since it is singles day. If people werent interested in reading, they wouldn't click the link.

It is absolutely fine, and even God-given for people to desire to get married. But that is very different to feeling entitled. And though I am open to communicating, I don't appreciate how you have assumed my motives and the motives of other people who have linked up. We can't see peoples hearts and thoughts and it just hurts us and others when we do that. You and I have no idea who feels entitled and who doesn't, let's leave that responsibility up to God. If this post speaks to their heart and encourages them, that is great. If not, that is fine. We are but vessels and can't be responsible for the outcome.

Thanks,
Laura

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Freda link
2/20/2013 01:45:07 am

Well-written, Angi! I've been married for 5 years now, and understand a bit better how much I have felt entitled to different things over my lifetime. Whether it was to earn the top grades in school, or have a "successful" life by the world's standards (while serving the Lord, too, of course!) or marrying the man of my dreams, or having as many children as I wanted, I didn't realize how much the entitlement mindset had permeated my life. I suppose that's one of the blessings of difficulties - God shows us through the trial what we were thinking all along! Good for you in learning to be content as a single and writing for others to benefit, too. I struggled with that when I was single, and the struggle with sin simply changes its face when a person gets married and finds out she still hasn't learned the secret of being content. Others encouraged me that even the Apostle Paul also had to LEARN to be content in whatever circumstance he was in. He had learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. (from Phil 4:11-12) God is gracious as He teaches us.

Press on, Angi!

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