As I write this article, my husband and I are currently in a "tiffle." Ok, a big fight. I'm sulking in the corner of a local cafe with a big mug of coffee. That's ridiculous, isn't it? I flee from a marital issue and now you are supposed to read my thoughts on the subject? Ha!
Oh, sweet Jesus help me.
I really am not qualified to write this article. Don't ask my husband's opinion right now, he might agree...
But even before this fight the Lord led my thinking to the reality that every decision we make, the patterns we set up, and the marriages we live... are all on display to the world. Even this fight I find myself in.
The truth is marriage can get ugly but it's one of the most public relationships we'll live out. It is God's intent to use our marriages to make us holy and glorify Himself. And that glory can be used to draw others near to Him.
The dangerously humble and eternally significant thing about marriage is that everyone's watching how you do it. Believers, non-believers, family, friends, co-workers, other parents, your kids...you are on display and you can influence well or continue to pollute marriage's reputation.
I love this: one time Jesus got a little crazy and bent down to wash his disciples feet. (That Jesus was always scandalizing people!) Feet washing was a job no one in their right mind wanted. In those times, foot-washing was reserved for the very lowest of servants. If you washed someone's feet and you weren't in a position of service, it was a great display of love.
Feet-washing was a dirty job, a lowly job, and a very humble experience. Yet Jesus did it.
And we are called as wives to love sacrifically as Jesus did and make Gospel-minded decisions for our husbands. I am called, no...required to wash my husband's big feet especially when he really makes me mad. Because the Lord is watching, because the world is watching. And because it makes much of God to be a servant.
This marriage isn't about me. It's about His Glory. And it's about living out the Great Commission to one another and a broken world. To paint a picture of the gospel to anyone watching.
Looks like I need to be willing to wash my feet as a ministry to my husband and my marriage's audience.
I think I'll go call my husband now and see if he will forgive me...and yes, I would do that whether you were watching or not. :)
If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another's feet. John 13:14
Carly is a husband-swooning, health-inspired, simplicity-loving, Jesus-follower. She and her hunky husband Ryan adventure wherever the Lord takes them and most recently that has been into the often scary world of chronic illness. Connect with Carly on her personal blog,Pinterest and at Reaching For Fringe, a resource for chronic illness and marriage. Very nice to meet you!
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