We all want formula's for marriage. A simple twelve-step plan to make marriage easy, compatible, joyous, and missonal.
But let's face it, marriage is hard.
I remember it well, nearly two decades ago. I sat across from my husband, two small children asleep upstairs.
“I can't do this”, I cried. But today, I still can't remember why the fight broke out.
I believed in true love, but let's face it, the trenches of real-life marriage can be far from easy.
“I don't know why, but I feel like we are supposed to be together.” My husband whispers. “Like God has something good planned for us.”
I grumbled and scowled. I huffed and puffed. But deep down, I knew He was right.
I didn't tell him at the time, but when he said “we are supposed to be together”, I heard what sounded like a lion roar inside, telling me also, God had a reason for us being together.
In retrospect, two decades later, I can see the fruit of “sticking it out” in that moment.
And while there are no formula's for a perfect marriage, we've learned some basic principles making missional marriages, just a little bit easier.
Our testimony isn't one of perfection, but perseverance, not fairy tale dreams, but a life lived missionally, clinging to Him, watching God take ashes and turn it into beauty.
And maybe today you feel like you keep casting your net and it keeps coming up empty. Ask for His wisdom, hold on, keep stepping forward, forget your feelings, and trust His faithfulness.
He never failed us, and He won't fail you. Marriage is something worth fighting for.
Though born, raised, and still living only miles from where she grew up, Jen's heart lies in the nations. Jen loves the beautiful tapestry found in the wide diversity of people, different cultures, and all nations. Jen and her husband have been married twenty years, and have parented fifteen kids and counting; twelve foster, one adopted, and two bios. Her multi-racial family reflects her passion for unity, desire for faith without walls, and missional mindset to share both the gospel and the power of redemption to a world desperately needing the hope found in Jesus Christ. Jen and her husband have led in a variety of ministries; including prayer, small groups, children's, and women’s. Jen advocates for the orphan as a board member for the non-profit, A New Song; and loves doing missions work internationally, along with her family. You can find Jen writing about faith, while challenging her readers at her blog, Rich Faith Rising, as well as at tweeting faith-filled messages @Jen_Avellaneda . Jen is also on facebook.
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