How to Make a Relationship Work

Dating is hard. But dating as a Christian has become even more difficult. There is this idea out there that God has that one special person and that person is just waiting to come sweep us off our feet, be a spiritual leader all the time, never fail, and consistently give us foot massages after a long day of work. 

Here’s the deal, ladies: not one of the men out there is perfect. But there is a man out there that is going to be the best partner in your walk with Jesus. It drives me nuts when people give up on relationships because the man “didn’t seem good enough.” The truth of the matter is none of us are good enough. 

The real question in a relationship should be whether or not we are pushing each other toward Christ. The truth is we don’t by any means deserve relationships. As a matter of fact, we don’t really deserve anything. So what makes us think our relationships should be about us? Our relationships should be about Jesus and what he did for us! That’s it. 

Relationships are a way for us to better glorify His name, not simply be at peace, although that is a nice bonus. I love my husband, I truly do and I am so thankful for him, but in our dating years we always said that no matter what if we were to ever stop pursuing Christ than our relationship would end. If our relationship isn't growing us closer to the Lord than we shouldn't be continuing it. And this is not to say we never struggled, but when we came down to the root of it, it always pointed back to Jesus. Every time.
            
God allows us a partner because he knows us. He knows our need for someone. But ultimately it goes back to him and his message. How am I using my life to show the characteristics of the Lord? When you put someone into your life, you work together to display this. We must work together with our relationship to glorify Christ. If we don’t then we are not truly utilizing the relationship given to us. It is work. It is not all sunshine and rainbows. It deserves the utmost attention and respect and work. So many times in the Bible it focuses on this idea - that our only goal is to glorify the Lord. And if we are not glorifying him, than we are taking advantage of our relationship given to us.

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About Kaylee

Kaylee lives and works in Denver, CO with her wonderful husband Patrick and their dog Denver.  She is currently pursuing a degree in photography at the University of Colorado Denver, where she is famous for her impeccable taste in scarves and cardigans.  Kaylee uses her gifts in film and photography to create “makes your eyes dance” powerpoint slides for her campus ministry.  Kaylee is a formal member of the Geek Squad Target, where she is a beast at explaining technology to old people.  In her spare time, Kaylee likes to disciple girls and kill zombies. 

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