Have you ever felt disreguarded, abandoned or deserted?
I'm guessing you have. I'm guessing most people have.
In 2nd Samuel David's men were bickering and along comes this "worthless man" also called "a good-for-nothing" named Sheba. (What a title! I would hate to be described that in Scripture) Sheba gets everyone focusing on themself and convincing them its all about them and how they arn't going to get anything out of serving David.
He said, "We've got nothing to do with David, there's no future for us with the son of Jesse! Let's get out of here... So all the men of Israel deserted David and followed Sheba..." 2 Sam. 20:1-2
I imagine David felt much like I have when after investing so much in a girl who I disciple and she deserts me and treats me as though I have given her nothing. I imagine he felt much like you when you experienced someone disreguard you and hung you out to dry.
It's comforting to know were not alone.
And even more comforting to remember the Lord Himself walked through the very same thing. Some people following Him, people He was investing in, found His teaching too hard so they deserted Him.
My tendency is to throw up my hands and throw in the towel with an attitude of forget you. Not pretty! I think other tendencies might be to justify our worthiness or cling to others who havent deserted and try to get affirmation from them. But Jesus did none of these. He didn't ignore the issue and give up on the people, he didn't justify Himself telling them how stupid they were to desert the King of Kings because they didn't like what He had to say. And He didn't cling to the disciples that stayed. He addressed the issue head on turning to His disciples saying, "do you want to leave to?"
With my recent situation, I'm encouraged to not throw in the towel, but to communicate. I remember two very speicfic times I did this and God used it to build the most redeeming relationships in my life. Two of my closest friends came out of a hard conversations after feeling disreguarded and deserted. Beauty from ashes.
What about you? What is your tendency when you are disreguarded? How has the Lord encouraged you to respond?